Know why I never post on fandomsecrets? I like sharing my shame.

[amanuensis1]

From the trailer, I wanted rather badly to see this film:



...and then I learned the one on the right is not a boy. Now I'm no longer interested.

Migod, could I get any more shallow.

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[persephone-blue.livejournal.com]

My heterosexual fantasies are almost all rape, because that way the girl is not a slut because she didn't want it.

A while back, a friend and I were trying to puzzle out why some women, many of whom consider themselves femminists, often have rape fantasies. Reading that sentence, a light bulb went on. Rape fantasy is not just about non-consensual sex, it's about being both innocent and sexual! I feel all smart, now, for realizing the obvious.

[amanuensis1.livejournal.com]

Yup, it's about "But I didn't WANT to, he MADE me," tragic as that is.

ETA: I won't discount that there is likely something ingrained in me to find rape fantasies hot beyond that reasoning alone, e.g. "whips and chains excite me!", but I know that "I was forced to; it's not my fault" is a large part of it.

[persephone-blue.livejournal.com]

It's definitely sad, but it's also honest. From a general, social perspective, women are being given a lot of hypocritical messages through media and family. Like, "Okay, you're allowed to be equal to men in theory, but we would really appreciate it if you remain compliant and innocent." Rape fantasies now seem like a perfectly logical answer to this "request" for females to remain pure whatever the circumstances.

"Whips and chains excite me" is an individual reason for a rape fantasy, but "it's not my fault" may be part of a societal concept that's much larger and more deeply ingrained. I love talking about this sort of stuff, though yes, it has a certain edge of conspiracy theory to it.

[amanuensis1.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it makes me angry to recognize this is not some subconscious, subtle message--I was directly told this, again and again, by parents who had had it told to them, again and again. And you believe it and you realize everyone else believes it.

[persephone-blue.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you realized the wrongness of the belief even if your parents didn't. Another step in breaking the chain, hopefully.