I agree with you that recognising the value that people place on social interaction is a virtue.
If we remember that the buttons give permission to ask (and not permission to touch), then what ferrett rather foolishly portrayed as an all-in gropefest becomes an exercise in communication.
I guess, there are times when my thought processes really are very profound, and there are other times when my thoughts and feelings are really very shallow. And I think that it's good to encourage people to be honest about the depth or shallowness of their thoughts and feelings. I agree with an implication of what you're saying - that touching people in a deep and meaningful way is better than doing it in a shallow and meaningless way. But I don't think that it has to be deep and meaningful in order to be good, and I think that a bit of shallowness now and then is good for us.
So, yes, not investing in communication and 'getting to know you' places a limit on a relationship between people. But I think a limited relationship (provided everybody gives genuine consent) can be a good thing.
Personally, I would be very reluctant to take part, I think my values about relationships are actually very similar to yours. But I don't think that the best way to evaluate this concept is on the basis of whether it suits me, I think the best way to evaluate it is on the basis of whether it suits the participants.
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Date: 2008-04-26 12:41 am (UTC)If we remember that the buttons give permission to ask (and not permission to touch), then what ferrett rather foolishly portrayed as an all-in gropefest becomes an exercise in communication.
I guess, there are times when my thought processes really are very profound, and there are other times when my thoughts and feelings are really very shallow. And I think that it's good to encourage people to be honest about the depth or shallowness of their thoughts and feelings. I agree with an implication of what you're saying - that touching people in a deep and meaningful way is better than doing it in a shallow and meaningless way. But I don't think that it has to be deep and meaningful in order to be good, and I think that a bit of shallowness now and then is good for us.
So, yes, not investing in communication and 'getting to know you' places a limit on a relationship between people. But I think a limited relationship (provided everybody gives genuine consent) can be a good thing.
Personally, I would be very reluctant to take part, I think my values about relationships are actually very similar to yours. But I don't think that the best way to evaluate this concept is on the basis of whether it suits me, I think the best way to evaluate it is on the basis of whether it suits the participants.