OK. I think you may have thought that I was saying that the guy in the bar was exactly the same as the guy who wanted a button that would let him avoid that pesky social interaction, when my assumption was that the guy in the bar was sincere in wanting to get to know the woman first.

But I was also acknowledging that the OP could be right that bar guy and button guy had exactly the same motives, but insincere bar guy is still - if only slightly - a better person for at least being aware that social interaction is something that people value. He's making an effort to behave like a member of the human race; he does not deserve a reward for the effort itself, but it does mean he has a chance to actually discover that the object of his attention isn't an object at all but a person. But button guy will never do that; he's skipped the process that would make that possible.